Single at twenty three, a positive take

With many things in life I often like to take a positive outlook on my relationship status having remained ‘single’ for the vast majority of my life so far. In fact, I can put my hand on my heart and tell you that I have never been in a proper relationship (none that I’d count anyway) and I am OK with this, mostly.

I have plenty of friends who are similar ages to me and in good, long term, secure relationships and I am so happy for them. It means that there will be lots of fun weddings to come in the not too distant future and an excuse for lots of new dress purchases too, but I really am happy for them.

Sometimes I get quite jealous when I scroll down social media seeing so many perfectly happy couples, holidaying in Menorca or generally having a jolly romantic time of it and I long for my man to come along.

Quite often I’ve got quite (drunkenly) upset and aired the issue to close friends, sometimes even strangers about how lonely being single can feel.

However, there are so many good bits about being single at twenty three and though I would welcome a relationship with open arms, I am more than content with my life as it is. Please don’t get me wrong though, I’m happy for those lucky ones.

I have time. Twenty three is SO YOUNG. You hear so many older couples saying how they wished they had waited and not settled so young, or telling you that you have got so much time. So many people didn’t meet their life long love until they were in their late twenties or even later so time is definitely on my side.

I already have a busy schedule. I struggle to fit many of my friends into my increasingly jammed schedule and I know so many of my peers are in the same situation so fitting time for a boyfriend right now seems impossible. Being single takes this responsibility away -result!

I am saving money. Christmas is cheaper, birthdays are cheaper and in fact life is cheaper without having to have numerous date nights on top of socialising with friends too.

I am having fun. Nights out can become more exciting when you can kiss who you like and Tinder is always an entertaining pastime.

I am in control. Your life plans are yours and there is no compromising or planning whether you want kids and when etc.

It will happen. As hard as it is to hear sometimes and as difficult as I find it to believe, literally everyone tells me that someone will come into my life when I least expect it and the more successful relationships that I hear of, the more I believe this saying to be true.

So though a romantic getaway wouldn’t go amiss and sometimes I’d like to have someone more than my lovely friends to tell me I’m a good person and cared for, being single really isn’t that bad for now, especially at such a young age.